Thursday, October 12, 2023

Self-Care Sundays

Welcome to Self-Care Sundays. Self-Care Sunday feature posts will appear each Sunday and will explore the importance of mental, physical, and emotional self-care and focus on how self-care not only benefits us, but also others in addition to ourselves.

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What is Self-Care? 

Self-care can be any act or effort you take to take care of yourself. These acts are as far    reaching as taking care of your personal hygiene, to setting personal boundaries and practicing the ability to say ‘no’ to requests from others that drain your energy, to making time to engage in a hobby you enjoy doing.  Though they all may be seemingly different and unrelated acts, what they all have in common is that they are steps you can take toward your emotional wellbeing.

Beneficial or Bogus?

Most of us have heard the term self-care at this point. It is possible you often hear or read about it multiple times a day.  The term has become a huge buzzword in our current culture. The more cynical among us, myself included at times, may even say it has been wielded by many corporate marketing firms as a vehicle to increase sales for a wide array of products and services by tapping into our need to fill an emotional wellbeing-void.

Is your emotional wellbeing a bit on the low side at the moment? Buy this new $100 moisturizer in the name of self-care. Feeling a little stressed from your work or from your kid’s busy school and sports schedule? You deserve to indulge in this nice bottle of wine to take the edge off…in the name of self-care.

funny cat in robe with wine enjoying self-care
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Living the best of his nine lives

That being said, self-care can be a legitimate practice which can greatly increase the quality of our lives and fill our cups, so to speak, and to increase our capacity to care for and show up for others.

Even the World Health Organization has recently officially weighed in on the importance of healthcare workers’ ability to support people’s self-care efforts. Everywhere around the world, supporting self-care can help people have more control over their own health and wellbeing.

Research suggests benefits of engaging in a self-care routine include:

·       more positive health outcomes
·       increased personal resilience
·       possibility of living longer
·    becoming better equipped at managing stress

I know personally, when I am consistent with my self-care routine, including exercising daily and preparing healthful meals for myself, it is reflected in my mood, my feeling of wellbeing, and my capacity to care for others.

Some Self-Care Routine Ideas

In my own self-care practice, I try to focus on acts or things that I can achieve fairly quickly, things that cost little to no additional money investment needed, and have noticeable immediate payoffs. A few aspects of my regular self-care routine include:

·       Meal planning. Meal planning doesn’t have to be a drawn out, time consuming chore in which you plan out every single meal for the week, do a gigantic grocery haul, then prepare and store it all at once. This type of meal prep can be very handy of course (after the fact), but this time investment and often large money expenditure up front doesn’t fit in many of our schedules or financial situations. Instead, try focusing on having one healthy frozen meal option in your freezer at all times. In a pinch, you will have a quick, but still healthful, food option that saves you from resorting to fast food yet again and will help keep you on your budget.

father and daughter practicing self-care with healthy meal
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·       Budgeting. People often think of budgeting as a form of restricting or even punishing themselves, but once you buy in to your budget and commit to it, that is so far from the truth. A budget can give you peace of mind, the freedom to afford the things you truly want, and even the ability to give to others. I personally cannot recommend You Need a Budget highly enough. AND they have a 1-year free trial for students.

 donation being added to donation jar through financial wellbeing

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·       Exercising. Exercising is important - we all know that - but we often instead treat exercise and physical movement as optional or even somehow a luxury that just cannot fit in our lives. As someone who lives with a chronic illness and has also experienced depression and anxiety, I feel a huge noticeable difference, physically and mentally, when I regularly exercise compared to when I have let my daily workout routine fall by the wayside. 

I personally like rowing but there are other great, completely free options like practicing yoga. If you have access to YouTube, then you have access to a plethora of free guided yoga videos such as Yoga with Adriene. Adriene is delightful, her videos range for all abilities, plus you can often get to see her dog Benji.

group of people practice wellbeing and self-care through yoga
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Continue the Self-Care Journey

These tips are just a few of the more basic, but possibly life changing daily habits encompassed in self-care. They do not necessarily have to involve a huge time or money investment but reap huge returns on investment.

The self-care genre is vast so next Sunday we will delve into more aspects to increase our wellbeing. In the meantime if you would like to learn more about facets and tips to explore in the self-care realm you can also check out National Institute of Mental Health.

Another great source of self-care tips and ideas is the blog The Blissful Mind. There are many great ideas and techniques for focusing your self-care efforts on calming your mind through journaling and other mindful acts.

Join our Community Conversation 

How do you self-care?  I would love to hear your thoughts about self-care and how it affects your life and relationships. If you have any self-care tips of your own to share please drop them also in the comments below. I would love to read them and I am sure others would like to read them as well. 

Wednesday, September 27, 2023

What is Sonder?

 

Sonder: The realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own.

Image Credit: The Practical Psych

We often tend to direct our daily focus on accomplishments and deadlines in our attempt to achieve success. To fill any voids we may perceive in our lives, we lean on the crutch of acquiring material things to bring us comfort. This blog challenges these societal “norms” and instead explores the "soft" skills and tools available to us all to improve our daily quality of life, which will in turn lead to the greatest success of all: a satisfying, fulfilling, connected, contented life for ourselves and also those around us.

Often overlooked practices such as offering compassion to others are not simply natural born traits allotted for some of us, but proven skills that can be learned by any of us.


Image Credit: Association for Psychological Science

A few additional topics you can expect to see explored here are:

  •  relationships
  •  work/life balance
  • coping with loss and illness
  • branching out of our comfort zones

Being a full-time-employed adult who has returned to college, I have begun my own process of being bold and branching out into the unknown.  

I have a lifelong interest in continuing to learn and grow as a person. I believe continuing to learn and evolve throughout life is our greatest purpose.

I also believe that sharing is caring so here you will read what I have learned through my own experience and trial and error. I hope that something you read here will connect with you in some way and that possibly you will share your own experiences, if you are so inclined.

I'm so glad you're here.

Self-Care Sundays

Welcome to Self-Care Sundays. Self-Care Sunday feature posts will appear each Sunday and will explore the importance of mental, physical, an...